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If you have lost someone you were close to, not having them with you on such a special day can be really tough and although they can no longer be there in person, they are certainly with you in your heart. It can be nice, during your ceremony to take some time to acknowledge those special loved ones. And there are several ways to do this, lighting a candle, having a photo of them present, carrying something of theirs on your person and of course, in the words of your ceremony.
Those we love don’t go away
They’re still beside us everyday
Unseen, Unheard, but always near
Still loved, still missed and very dear
Like most women, I’m a sucker for a great pair of shoes, and lets face it, sometimes practicality simply is not a consideration. It seems like a funny part of the wedding for a celebrant to talk about, but I have watched some lovely brides suffer.
Comfortable shoes are important! If you are one of these incredibly fortunate women who could walk a marathon in stilettos, then you have my admiration and envy! But do remember, you are going to be standing for a very long time, and aching feet can really take away a lot of your enjoyment of the day. So can having white silk stiletto heels sinking down into the dirt. So do give the practicalities some thought (as boring as that is), and be kind to your feet!
They happen. Even in the middle of summer. Even in the middle of a drought!
So be prepared.
While you may have the perfect outdoor spot in mind for your wedding, it’s always a good idea to have an indoor option planned out (when you apply for your marriage licence, they will want to know your plan B address if it is different to the first one).
The great thing about a rainy day wedding is there is the potential for some really amazing and totally different photographs than you would get otherwise (check out this gorgeous one of Zach and Maria) and also, it’s a perfect opportunity to cuddle up to your new hubby/wife! At the end of the day, if you get to marry the person you love, then everything has gone perfectly.
And do remember, should you wake on your wedding day to grey skies instead of blue, do remember, a good marriage is more than just weathering the storms, it’s learning to dance in the rain!
With the “Wedding Season” (aka Summer) well and truly over, why not consider a winter wedding? We can still get those incredibly beautiful clear days that are simply amazing, over. It just means everyone has to wrap up a little warmer.
Without the high seasonal demands placed upon venues, celebrants etc, you can take your pick. And there are so many gorgeous capes and coats out there to keep you nice and toasty! And think open fires, candles and cosiness!
The main concern, of course, is that the weather is more unpredictable, and a really good wet weather option is definitely to be recommended. Always remember, when planning an outdoor wedding and applying for your marriage certificate, that BDM will want to know the address of your proposed wet weather venue, if it is different from your first choice.
It’s definitely worth some consideration. Got any questions? Want to run some ideas by me? Give me a call on 021 140 6632.
While organising your wedding, you need to decide whether to ban the use of smart phones, cameras and social media, particularly during the ceremony.
In many ways, social media is great. You get to see lots of images that you may not have seen otherwise, but on the minus side, ‘family photographers’ can get in the way of the actual professional photographer who is trying to do a good job for you. Also, you have no control of what photos go up on Social Media or how soon they are there.
If you want your guests to be sharing the moment with you, rather than viewing it through a camera or phone lens, then do give it some thought. There is no right or wrong, but ‘unplugging’ weddings is gaining a lot of popularity. Ultimately though it is completely up to you.
Daylight Savings has begun (woohoo!), and the Wedding Season is on it’s way. Bring it on! Here are some really cute quotes about love and marriage
“I have known many happy marriages, but never a compatible one. The whole aim of marriage is to fight through and survive the instant when incompatibility becomes unquestionable.” ―G. K. Chesterton
“Love without truth is sentimentality; it supports and affirms us but keeps us in denial about our flaws. Truth without love is harshness; it gives us information but in such a way that we cannot really hear it.” ―Timothy Keller
“Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment.” ―Gary Chapman
“The happiness of married life depends upon making small sacrifices with readiness and cheerfulness.” ―John Selden
“There is no more lovely, friendly or charming relationship, communion or company, than a good marriage.” ―Martin Luther
“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” ―Ruth Bell Graham
A sand ceremony can really add a nice touch to your wedding. The idea is to blend different sands together, creating a beautiful pattern and giving you a keepsake that will last forever.
It can be a great way to get the kids involved, as they can pour sand as well. This is particularly effective in the case of blending a family together. Each person pours a different colour sand, (or sands from places of origin. i.e. black sand from the west coast, white sand from the east coast). It works best if the sands contrast well.
Here is an example of the wording attached which really explains what this ceremony signifies…
“John and Jane, today you are made a lasting commitment to share the rest of your lives with each other, and with Sam and Samantha creating a new family together. The Unity Sand Ceremony we will now perform represents the unification of two distinct families, and the four of you as individuals into a new, single, whole.
First, John and Jane, you will each separately pour a layer of sand into the vase, representing who you are as an individual.
Now, you will pour simultaneously, blending your two colours as you will blend your lives in marriage.
As the individual grains of sand can no longer be separated, may your bond also be inseparable.
But you are also making a bond with your children Sam and Samantha. As they also contribute their unique personalities and strengths to this new family, they will also individually add a layer of sand to this unity vase.
Now everyone will pour together, representing your commitment to each other as a united family going on from here.”
I get asked A LOT, if I changed my surname to suit to my profession as a celebrant. I promise you the answer is NO!
But of course, it wasn’t always my last name. When I met Rob, the man that was to become my husband and discovered his last name, I was not impressed and can very distinctly remember thinking, “Wow, I wouldn’t want to marry him!” Famous last words indeed!
By the time we married, I was used to it and resigned to taking Rob’s last name. Over the years, I have come to appreciate that “love” really is the most beautiful word in the English language, and I now wear that name with pride. The fact that we can celebrate that very word at weddings is just awesome!
One of my favourite sayings…
“We are all a little weird, and life’s a little weird
And when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours
We join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness
And call it LOVE”